When I started this blog back in 2019, my hope was to create a space that empowered women to unapologetically be themselves, speak their truths, and fully embrace authenticity. Fast forward to now and being authentic feels more important–and more challenging–than ever.
Social media constantly sends us mixed messages: “Be yourself!” it says, while showing us endless feeds of people who seem to live, dress, think, and act the same. You can easily walk away after scrolling feeling like your life isn’t “right” because it doesn’t look like everyone else’s. And with everyone having an opinion about everything, it’s easy to feel like it’s safer to just be like everyone else.
The truth is, the only way to really feel at home in your own life is to live authentically. And with a new year just starting, now feels like the perfect time to share some tips on how to do just that.
Know Yourself
The best way to really know yourself is to spend time with yourself. And no this does not include scrolling on social media or bingeing a show. The time that you spend with yourself should be intentional. Take time to reflect on your values, beliefs, and passions as these form the foundation of who you truly are.
Practices like journaling or meditating can also help you process your experiences and gain clarity about yourself. While you’re journaling or sitting still, self reflect and ask yourself meaningful questions such as, “What brings me joy?” or “Who am I when no one is watching?” These moments of introspection will deepen your self-awareness and help you align with your authentic self.
Align Your Actions With Your Values
Aligning your actions with your values is where knowing yourself and authenticity really come to life. What’s the point of knowing who you are if you aren’t acting in a way that reflects it? If kindness is one of your values, make sure your actions show it–whether that’s how you treat people or how you talk to yourself. If honesty matters to you, practice being upfront in your relationships.
It’s about checking in with yourself often and asking, “Does this reflect the person that I say I am or who I want to be?”
Set Boundaries
Setting boundaries is a huge part of being your authentic self. As uncomfortable as it can be, it is necessary to get comfortable saying no to things that don’t align with who you know yourself to be or things that you just don’t want to do.
Boundaries aren’t just about saying “no” though. It’s also important to think about what you’re sharing and who you’re sharing it with–not everyone needs access to every detail of your personal life. The more you share the more you open yourself up to other people’s opinions. Without a strong sense of self, it’s easy to slip into living a life that doesn’t really feel like yours.
Celebrate Your Uniqueness
Celebrating your uniqueness is all about owning what makes you you. Stop trying to fit in or be like everyone else. Stand out and let your differences shine. Comparison is a trap, so if you’re doing it, stop it! Instead, lean into what makes you different and fully embrace it.
It may go without saying but confidence is key here. When you believe in yourself, it encourages everyone else around you to see and respect the real you.
Embrace Your Imperfections
Embracing your imperfections is a huge part of being your authentic self.
Authenticity is not about being perfect, it’s about being real. And not only should you embrace your imperfections but also don’t be afraid to share them too. Sharing your struggles and vulnerabilities doesn’t make you weak; it makes you human and relatable.
Instead of chasing perfection, focus on celebrating progress and remember that growth is a journey, not a destination.
There is beauty in being a work in progress.
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This really spoke to me as a naturally introverted person navigating social media a trying to build a platform. This puts things into perspective and gave me some goals to add to 2025!
I’m so glad it resonated with you! You are the dopest so keep tapping into it sis!